Have you ever been just a little envious of those extraordinary couples who appear to have such a warm and loving connection? It seems so natural, so blissfully effortless.
I guess they’re just the lucky ones, right?
In this season of leprechauns, shamrocks, and the"Luck o The Irish” it might be tempting to believe that luck or wishful thinking has anything to do with creating a great marriage.
Nothing could be further from the truth.
A great marriage involves two people consciously and intentionally creating the kind of marriage they desire together.
Here are three key ingredients to help you build that coveted awesome relationship together.
Take Responsibility For Your “Steps in the Dance.”
Marriage is like a dance. It has a certain rhythm to it, and each partner contributes to the delicate movements for good or for bad.
Successful couples know how empowering it can be when each spouse takes responsibility for their own steps rather than pointing the finger at each other.
When you are each dedicated to taking personal responsibility for how you act and what you do to create the marriage you want, your relationship will thrive.
Practical Daily Doable:
Do one thing each day that may bring some happiness into your partner’s life.
- Do a chore you know they hate to do.
- Tell your spouse how great he/she looks today.
- Put a love note on the bathroom mirror.
Make Time to Connect in a Healthy Way Each Day
Just as spring flowers need sunshine and water to blossom, your marriage needs your precious time and energy each day to helps it thrive.
Here are some suggestions to help you create a healthier connection:
Practical Daily Doable:
- A simple kiss goodbye in the morning.
- A quick text just to say, “I'm thinking of you."
- A brief "How was your day?" huddle to catch up on the days events.
Maintain An Attitude of Gratitude
Successful couples have mastered the art of gratitude. They know that when things get rough, a grateful heart is the glue that keeps them together.
Unresolved conflict in your relationship can be like a black cloud covering over all the good stuff. You don’t even notice all the wonderful things your spouse may be doing right under your nose.
Here’s the secret. What you focus on expands. When you make a conscious effort to notice the things you love and appreciate about your spouse, those things get bigger.
And don’t forget to share these delightful insights with your spouse.
Practical Daily Doable:
- "Thank you so much for taking the initiative to give the kids a bathtonight."
- "Wow, you look great in that shirt!"
- "That was so generous of you to pick up the tab for dinner with my parents.”
New life can blossom in a marriage, sometimes when you least expect it.
But don't count on luck or wishful thinking to make it happen.
It happens when you make a commitment to give your marriage the time and attention it needs to blossom into the amazing relationship you really want to have.
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